Of course you want to meditate, butyou're too busy. You always get distracted. You don't think you're doing it right. And so on. There are about a million excuses for why you "can't" meditate, despite knowing that it might just change your life.Studies have shown that meditation can help us deal with everything from chronic stress to clinical anxiety, and possibly even change the physical structure of our brains in the process. Some researchers believe these changes make us more resilient to everyday pressures, and possibly more compassionate to those around us.
However, even if you're already convinced you want to take up a meditation habit, you're still going to run up against your fair share of challenges — including those excuses. For some pointers, we turned to Ralph De La Rosa, a meditation expert and therapist, for ways to make that habit just a bit easier to build. Get ready: full Zen ahead.
Make Your Space
"This is a pretty universal one," says de la Rosa. If you want to be meditating more often, it makes sense that you'd want to make your meditation space as inviting as possible. That means using the same space every day, keeping that space clean, and making it yours.
So feel free to surround yourself with flowers, sounds, candles, comfy pillows, blankets — whatever it takes to feel like a place you want to spend some time. Or if you're trying to strip away distractions, you could try to dedicate this space to being the one uncluttered corner in your apartment. The key is to figure out what would make you want to be there.
Create An Altar
Another way to dedicate a space in your life to meditation is by creating an altar. This is a space where you can keep anything you use while meditating — and/or objects that remind you of the mindset you're after during practice. The altar can be on your nightstand, your bookshelf, or on a little table; it could hold your favorite calming candle, your iPhone speakers, crystals, or plants.
But like everything else about your meditation practice, what you put on your altar is totally up to you. It's about what feels right for your own unique approach. So, sure, you could buy a Buddha — but only if you feel like it.
"For the secular mindset, it's not necessarily about it being a sacred space or having religious icons on a table," says de la Rosa, "but it's just nice to light candles and have good smells and fresh flowers around — and it's more likely to entice you to practice."
Try An App
If you're a total beginner, try an app like Headspace, which can be an on-the-go guide to starting mindfulness and breathing exercises — without the commitment (or potential for self-consciousness) of a class.
Other apps might be better for more seasoned meditators looking for specific training. For instance, Happify places meditation in the context of other happiness boosting exercises. And Karmic offers the more free-form experience of calming music on a timer, for however long you want to go. Try out a few of our favorites here.
Find Your Time
You've probably heard that the "secret" to creating a habit is to do the activity you're trying to make stick at the same time every day. But, the right time for you to meditate might not be when you wake up — or maybe it is! The only way to know what will feel best is to try it.
Maybe you'll do your best mindfulness work right before you head to bed, or you'll need some stress relief in the few minutes you actually get to sit down on the subway.
As time goes on, don't be afraid to get creative with your timing if you need to."If I'm too rushed in the morning or if I wake up late, I'll use my lunch break," De La Rosa says.
Find Your Mantra
A lot of people have this idea that meditation means completely turning your brain off, but it's really about being present. Finding a mantra to repeat to yourself during meditation is a great way to stay focused on what you're doing — rather than the 15 emails waiting in your inbox. Try doing some searching and experimenting to find a phrase that resonates with you. For instance, check out metta meditation, which has you send goodwill to yourself and other people.
Or maybe it's much simpler than that: "Something that helps me a lot when my mind is busy or I'm overcaffeinated is using the mantra 'Here,'" says De La Rosa."You're just calling the mind to be here."
Start Small
If you're starting with an hour, or even just 15 minutes, it's easy to get psyched out in the first few moments. De La Rosa's advice: don't get too ambitious, too quickly.
"Begin with something totally manageable that you can sustain with some consistency," he says. "But remember that 10 minutes of meditation a day is a lot more than zero minutes of meditation a day."
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